Man, as his created role in life was given a natural desire to be pre-eminent within the family unit. To be responsible in this position of leadership of his family, man must be held accountable to the duties pursuant to this capacity or office.

There are I feel, four basic areas of responsibilities, man must take on in a marriage relationship. These responsibilities were given to him by moral and spiritual right. These areas we are speaking of are as follows.
  1. EXAMPLE
  2. GUIDE
  3. PROTECTOR
  4. PROVIDER
The husband as Example: Pace setter: see 1 Timothy 4:12; & Titus 2:7

Man, as being head of the family unit, must establish by exemplification the ways of God. He should portray the characteristics of God and live by them before his family to the very best of his capabilities. This he cannot do without being led and empowered by the Holy Spirit. Remember this thought, our actions speak so loud they {our family cannot hear a word we are saying}.

The husband in his role as Guide:

Guide being as intended leader, see Eph. 5:22-25 & Gen. 3:16. When one submits, they must submit to leadership should they have reason to...submit. "For the husband is the head of the wife." Men don't go shaking your head, uh uh, or [YES!!]. FOR YOU SEE As Christ gave himself (for) the church, so are the husbands to give of themselves to their wife. v.25 We are to be sacrificial for our wife as Christ who died and gave himself for the church. One of the first commandments to the woman was, "Thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee" Gen. 3:16. Tell me this, how can a man possibly rule over anything or anybody if he is not willing to lead or guide? The apostle Paul says that the woman is to reverence (her) husband, and submit themselves unto their own husband, not the neighbor's or friend's husband, but reverence to her own husband. 1 Peter 3:1 So CHRISTIAN HUSBAND, this puts the direct responsibility of us to lead and guide our wives with all diligence, and to attain this type of diligence we must receive it from the Word of God and the Holy Spirit.

The man as the PROTECTOR. 1 Peter 3:7

The wife as being the more petite and fragile of the marriage relationship. Man was designed by his very framework (build) or structure to be the protector. Women are fragile "for the most part" in structure. Remember the scripture {one flesh, bone of my bone). We as men must assume this role of protector due to the very nature of our creation, and capabilities. We with much spiritual insight and wisdom as Godly Christian Husbands, should with gladness, fulfill this responsibility as "protector" of those we love and of those in which we are responsible for in the marriage relationship.

The Christian Husband as the PROVIDER...1 Timothy 5:8

The above scripture is probably the most direct and non-optional directive given to the husband on the behalf of making provisions for those of his household. The word makes it very clear regarding the man that would refuse to do this, has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. To much of the time, many men are busy providing for themselves, and then........if and when, he will provide for those who are in need. Romans12:17 tells us as men we are to provide things honest in the sight of all men. I am sure and without doubt, there are times of real and unavoidable trouble, due to unforeseen circumstances that a man would and will have some trouble in this area, in making adequate provisions at some time or other during life's course, but the Word is addressing those men who would make a life style of neglecting their responsibilities of making proper provisions for their family. This one particular area of responsibility of the husband in amongst the others has assisted in destroying the economy balance of America. This is one reason the Welfare system creeks and groans and is stretched to the brink of destruction, men who call themselves husbands have been too self centered an non-responsible when it comes to making provisions for those he is.....responsible for, and so the story goes. Yes....and I might add: those who call themselves christian men are guilty of the above.

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